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20 Questions to ask your potential Surrogate Mother

  1. Why do you want to become a surrogate mother
  2. What inspired you to give such an amazing gift to someone?
  3. Type of surrogacy she wants to pursue
  4. What is your work?
  5. Do you want to have more children?
  6. How would you characterize your pregnancies? 
    1. Any complications? (Experience any of the following symptoms: Preclampsia, sciatic pain, mourning sickness, weight gain)
    2. Any illnesses?
    3. Bedrest?
    4. Have you experienced miscarriages previously?
    5. Have you experienced failed transfers previously
    6. Have you experienced abortion?
  7. Are you married? What does your husband/spouse/partner think about surrogacy?
  8. Who is in your support network?
    1. Is your Spouse supportive?
    2. Children?
    3. Family (Mother, Father, mother in law, father in law, cousins, uncles, aunts, etc)
    4. Friends?
    5. Co-workers?
  9. Will your supporters actually be able to assist if you’re on bedrest? 
  10. What are you feelings about carrying twins?
  11. Who are the birthing personnel you want to work with?  And why?
    1. OB?
    2. Doula?
  12. ​How do you feel about injections? Who would help you with the injections?

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  1. How would you like to discuss the pregnancy and journey? Complete discretion on social media (for example no posting on Facebook, Twitter)?
  2. What are your thoughts on compensation?
  3. What kind of lifestyle do you have?  (This question is regarding the surrogate’s overall health)
    1. Do you work out and exercise?
    2. Do you like to cook a lot ?
    3. Eating organic?  
  4. During pregnancy – would you/could you:
    1. Play music for our baby?
    2. Play voice recordings for our baby?
  5. What would your plan be if you were on bedrest for an extended period of time? who would be able to help you?  
  6. Day care/child care? (This is helpful to understand costs and also to know what the surrogate mother will do during travel for appointments)
    1. Are you kids in day care or child care? 
    2. Who takes them to DC or CC?
    3. If No Day Care or Child Care – what would be the plan when you’d have to travel for appointments to see the RE?  OB?
  7. What are your feelings about amniocentesis?
  8. What are your feelings about abortion?

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