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Thinking about surrogacy

There are many reasons to consider as intended parents when you want to create your family through surrogacy, whether you are a heterosexual couple who has struggled with infertility or a same-sex couple or person wanting to become parents.

Before you make your decision and start the surrogacy journey, it is important to educate yourself about the pros and cons of surrogacy and guarantee that you are prepared to entirely commit to the journey. (Also you need to learn about the cost of surrogacy).

Hopeful intend parents thinking about surrogacy must be aware of the monetary and emotional investment required.

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Once intended parent have decided to pursue a surrogacy process they must define their goals and needs, what type of surrogacy the want to follow (Traditional or gestational), what type of surrogacy specialist (surrogacy agency and/or surrogacy lawyer) they are going to work with, the type of relationship you’d like to have with the surrogate mother… these and other aspects need to be decided in advance and will help you to create your surrogacy plan.

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Surrogacy plan for intended parents

When prospective Intended Parents prepare, their surrogacy plan they need to outline of their goals and preferences including:

  • Type of surrogacy: Do you prefer traditional or gestational surrogacy?
  • Is a sperm or egg donor needed?
  • Are you going to work with a surrogacy agency to find surrogate mother?
  • Your goals for the surrogacy journey
  • what type of surrogate mother you would like to match with
  • Type of relationship with the surrogate mother

After deciding what kind of surrogacy you’d like to pursue and have selected either a surrogacy agency and/or lawyer you can start to find a surrogate.

Find a surrogate mother

Probably, one of the most exciting phases of the surrogacy journey is to find the right surrogate mother.

If your surrogate mother is going to be a friend or a relative, you may only need to work with a surrogacy attorney. Nevertheless, if you have not yet found a surrogate mother among your network probably you will need to hire a surrogacy agency, although also you can pursue surrogacy independently and find a surrogate on your own (online community, Facebook groups). Here you can find some helpful questions for the pre-screening process.

Once intended parents begin working with a surrogacy specialist, they can also support them to create their surrogacy plan.




20 Questions to ask your potential Surrogate Mother

  1. Why do you want to become a surrogate mother
  2. What inspired you to give such an amazing gift to someone?
  3. Type of surrogacy she wants to pursue
  4. What is your work?
  5. Do you want to have more children?
  6. How would you characterize your pregnancies? 
    1. Any complications? (Experience any of the following symptoms: Preclampsia, sciatic pain, mourning sickness, weight gain)
    2. Any illnesses?
    3. Bedrest?
    4. Have you experienced miscarriages previously?
    5. Have you experienced failed transfers previously
    6. Have you experienced abortion?
  7. Are you married? What does your husband/spouse/partner think about surrogacy?
  8. Who is in your support network?
    1. Is your Spouse supportive?
    2. Children?
    3. Family (Mother, Father, mother in law, father in law, cousins, uncles, aunts, etc)
    4. Friends?
    5. Co-workers?
  9. Will your supporters actually be able to assist if you’re on bedrest? 
  10. What are you feelings about carrying twins?
  11. Who are the birthing personnel you want to work with?  And why?
    1. OB?
    2. Doula?
  12. ​How do you feel about injections? Who would help you with the injections?

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  1. How would you like to discuss the pregnancy and journey? Complete discretion on social media (for example no posting on Facebook, Twitter)?
  2. What are your thoughts on compensation?
  3. What kind of lifestyle do you have?  (This question is regarding the surrogate’s overall health)
    1. Do you work out and exercise?
    2. Do you like to cook a lot ?
    3. Eating organic?  
  4. During pregnancy – would you/could you:
    1. Play music for our baby?
    2. Play voice recordings for our baby?
  5. What would your plan be if you were on bedrest for an extended period of time? who would be able to help you?  
  6. Day care/child care? (This is helpful to understand costs and also to know what the surrogate mother will do during travel for appointments)
    1. Are you kids in day care or child care? 
    2. Who takes them to DC or CC?
    3. If No Day Care or Child Care – what would be the plan when you’d have to travel for appointments to see the RE?  OB?
  7. What are your feelings about amniocentesis?
  8. What are your feelings about abortion?

What is the cost of surrogacy?

It is important to be straightforward and say that the surrogacy journey is usually a challenging and emotionally demanding journey. Before making your decision, it important to have explored other paths to become parents like adoption and understand the pros, cons and all the cost involved (i.e. surrogate mother cost).

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If you decide to pursue surrogacy, you need to get clarity about what are the possible surrogacy and surrogate mother cost because surrogacy signifies an important cost for many intended parents.

The total cost of a surrogacy process could include: surrogacy agency fees, surrogate mother cost, fertility clinic fees and legal fees. Nevertheless, there are some common factors that you need to consider which can affect the cost of surrogacy significantly.

Bellow you will find a surrogacy cost breakdown, please note that these costs are estimates for the US and may fluctuate from state to state as do laws regulating surrogacy.

Surrogate mother cost

Surrogate mother Cost can change based on first time or experienced surrogate mother fee and singleton versus multiple pregnancy.

  • A base fee for a surrogate can be around 35,000 - 40,000 USD and you should add about 5,000 USD if she is an experienced surrogate mother.
  • IVF Embryo Transfer Fee 1,000 USD
  • Maternity clothing allowance 500 USD
  • Twin pregnancy fee 5,000 USD
  • C- Section 3,000 USD

Medical and Psychological Screening Costs

For the psychological screening and medical screening, you should estimate about 3,000-5,000 USD (depending on your IVF clinic and the test you and your surrogate mother will need to pass).

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Legal Fees

In this chapter, you should include the surrogacy contract draft, the surrogate mother layer, the parentage declaration and the trust account management to manage the surrogate mother cost: You can estimate about 10.000 -15.000 USD

Other surrogacy cost to be considered 

  • IVF Medications for the surrogate mother (it can vary depending on the clinic and the needs of your surrogate)
  • Fertility physician for embryo transfer cycle (costs will vary depending on your clinic)
  • Monitoring for surrogate mother

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This is a common list surrogacy cost list, however there some decisions that can make you save money.

  • Option 1: Don’t use a surrogacy agency. This may be a debatable decision but you can find a surrogate without the help of an agency. If you find your surrogate independently and do the paperwork just with the support of an attorney, you can save a lot of money.
  • Option 2: Make sure your surrogate mother has her own health insurance that covers surrogate pregnancy (Note that not all insurances covers the surrogacy process)

You need to be aware that it’s not easy to make an estimation as every surrogacy journey is different and involves factors that can impact the final surrogacy cost. The typical cost of surrogacy can range from 100,000 USD to 150,000 USD depending on the state where you are going to pursue surrogacy, the type of surrogacy process (traditional surrogacy vs gestational surrogacy), if you decided to work with a surrogacy agency or if you find an altruistic surrogate mother. For example, in states like California, the cost may be slightly higher than in Ohio, it will depend on the demand. On the other hand, the legal requirements can also vary between the states.

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